There was a
question about a woman who is divorced or widowed – who will she be with in
Jannah? First of all, if a man is married to a woman and they are both going to
Jannah, they will both be in Jannah, even if they are different in Jannah. How
will that affect their statuses? Allahu ‘Alam, but the lower level will jump up
to the higher level, because Allah, out of His Mercy, will not lower anyone in
Jannah. Allah says, “Gardens of perpetual bliss. They shall enter there, as
well as the righteous among their fathers their spouses, and their offspring:
and angels shall enter unto them from every gate.” (13:23) And Allah says,
“They and their wives, in pleasant shade, on thrones reclining.” (36:56)
Allah says:
“Enter ye the Garden, ye and your wives, in (beauty and) rejoicing.” (43:70) So
they will all be greeted into Jannah.
Now, what
happens in the situation where a man passes away and his wife marries after
him? For the other scenario, where the wife passes away and the man remarries,
he will be with his first wife and his second wife. In this case, where the
woman remarries, who will she be with in Jannah?
Asmaa` bint Abi
Bakr was married to AzZubayr ibn Al-Awwaam – one of the ten promised Jannah.
She went to her father (Abu Bakr) and complained to him about her husband being
too strict with her. AzZubayr ibn AlAwwaam was a very strong man – a knight. He
was amongst the strongest in the Sahabah. The other Muslim soldiers once told
him that he had such a powerful sword; AzZubayr got mad and said not to give
credit to the sword, it was his arm. There are numerous stories telling about
AzZubayr’s courage and his strength; it was legendary even amongst the sahabah.
AzZubayr was very strict in his dealing with his wife, Asmaa` as well. Abu Bakr
didn’t have a problem with her complain; it was valid. AzZubayr had her do
laborious work and was strict with her. Abu Bakr said to her, “O my daughter
please be patient, because a woman, if she has a righteous husband and then he
dies, and she does not marry after him, Allah will bring them together in
Jannah.” Abu Bakr knew she was going through tough times, but he wanted her to
be patient because Abu Bakr knew that AzZubayr would have one of the highest
statuses in Paradise, so he wanted for her that to be in the same high status
as AzZubayr in Jannah. It is not all about this life.
This is also an
advice to the brothers and sisters – if you don’t like something in your
spouse, but they are righteous, be patient. It is not about dunya.
A woman came to
‘Umar ibn AlKhattab and said, “O ‘Umar, I do not love my husband.” ‘Umar looked
at her and said, “Marriages are not all based on love.” It is a cooperation in
al-dunya, and then we are going to pass away. It’s not all romantic love; it’s
about a house that they are establishing, raising a Muslim family and bringing
up children in a good household. There needs to be some compassion. RasulAllah
sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said, Don’t be harsh with your spouses, because if
you don’t like something in them, then there is something else good in them
that you love in them, and it should compensate.
We are not going
to get our pleasure and reward in dunya; we are going to get it in the akhirah
inshaAllah.
The other
narration is from when Hudhayfah was dying. He said to his wife, “O my beloved
wife, if you want to be my wife in akhirah, in Jannah, then do not marry anyone
after me, because I heard RasulAllah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam say that you
will be with your last husband.”